|My parents, 1938|
However, there is one aspect of weddings I can't get a handle on. It's the gift-giving aspect.
|Italian bride 2012|
|Our niece, 2014|
I like to target $100 as an outside price for a wedding gift, but sometimes can't stay in that target zone. For $100 I would have to give five gifts of $20 each on a registry, if the bride has listed mostly low-end. How are these supposed to be shipped? Separately in dribs and drabs? I can imagine as she receives the first one, the bride's saying, "That's it?" How many companies would have all the items in stock to ship together in one big box? Zero.
If the bride lists only a few items on the low-to-mid range on her registry, they're probably already bought by her guests anyway. That leaves the high-end items, meaning over $100. So my budget's shot before I scroll down...but not to the point of looking at the $350-and-up gifts. The only time I'd ever spend more than $350 on a wedding gift is when it's a very close relative - so close that I'd be bumping into her/him on a regular basis - like in our house!
|Bride in Italy, 2012|
Of course, there's the added cost of shipping and taxes ordering from a registry. I figure it can't be helped and don't factor that in. It saves us from carrying a gift to the wedding that I purchased locally.
Sure, I know it should be the thought that counts and dollar signs shouldn't be attached to a gift. But let's get real! When you get a wedding invitation, you're expected to send a gift. Brides create registries for a reason - and it's not just to let the world know what she needs. It's also to create parameters for her level of expectation. The trouble is, her level of expectation may not be mine.
|June 26, 1965|
What's your average price for a wedding gift?